The Mythical Attack on Manhood


Apparently, there is an attack on manhood going on in America. The news report is that men everywhere are being persecuted for being men. The lifestyle of the American male is the going the way of the Dodo bird – destined for extinction because of the relentless and coordinated attack of feminists, homosexuals, and an overactive liberal media. Men, if they do not stand up and fight for their right to be men, will be complicit in the ruination of society. To save masculinity is to save society.

Stop it.

Masculinity is not under attack. A quick survey of history shows that men have feared the feminization of men since…well…forever. This idea became rampant in America around the time of the American Revolution. The elite, aristocrat men of Britain were cast as feminized and soft by the fathers of the Revolution in order to embolden men to fight for independence. After all, what man wants to be ruled over by a woman?

This created a deep sense of anxiety in the American man.  One had to earn their masculinity by displaying strength, power, and independence as they proved their ability to become the American Self-Made man. Since this time, men have been fearing the worst: that men would become like women. Actually, let’s be intellectually honest, that fear didn’t originate at the birth of America, but has been around since men and women looked at each other and saw a physical difference.

Perhaps, it is because boys must, at some point in their lives, prove themselves separate from their mothers. They begin in the womb, are born, nurse at the breast, and grow up in the presence of women. In a culture that says a “real man” provides for their families, even the most family oriented of fathers are out of the house more than they are in the house. In other words, the expectations we place on men creates the systematic abandonment of boys. Boys, then, must learn to be a man by distancing themselves from women, not by imitating men. This is why one of the biggest fears of men is to be seen as a “pansy” or “sissy.” It is why men are cajoled into “growing some balls” and “manning up.” Boys never learn how to be men in the presence of women, but only know how to be a man by proving they are not a woman. This places men and women at constant odds with one another.

Obviously, this isn’t healthy – for men or women. Intuitively, men understand how unhealthy this situation is, but this is where the problem comes in. Rather than looking holistically and humanly at the problem, we do what we already do – we seek to further separate men and women by crying that manhood is under attack and we blame those who we believe to be to blame:  the more feminine – women, homosexuals, and liberals.

In other words, we as men have become so insecure in our masculinity that we recast those fears as attacks from those we believe to be a threat to our masculinity. In response to the threat men feel, they last out. Thus, the attack on manhood has become the attack of men on others.

No, manhood is not under attack. Being human is under attack.

It is time for men to stop being so insecure of the feminine. We need to start embracing the feminine qualities that are not just for women, but are for human beings. This isn’t to say that we should eliminate any distinction between men and women. Quite the contrary. I believe women need to learn from men AND men need to learn from women.

Christian discipleship is the process by which men and women become like Christ. One of the measures of growth in a the Christian is their embodiment of the fruits of the Spirit as outlined in Galatians 5:22. That list isn’t full of manly characteristics. Just the opposite. Gentleness and kindness, two of the fruits listed, are more likely to be identified with women than men. This is why I need women in my life. They teach me to embody these qualities thus making me more of a man by making me more human.

It is time we lay down the sword. Men, it is time to stop playing victim and crying as if there is some attack on our masculinity. It is time to stop worrying about becoming real men and start working on becoming real humans.

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  • Nathan Reeves

    Mr. Pyle, there’s too much data on tangible societal aversion to masculine values for one blog post to dismiss. Your post cites proper scripture and advocates good Christian discipleship, but that does not address the current trend in American society against men. It’s a problem, and it’s real.

    Family law, scholastic procedures, societal bias – the system is showing itself to be increasingly stacked against man, and your post somehow attempts to sugarcoat that.

    This book was quite instructive in building a case for real alarm and action to champion masculine values anew. I hope it proves helpful:

    • manofredearth

      Straw man and appeal to authority (and it’s not even the Bible, it’s some other book, jeez).

    • destroyideas

      Nothing is stacked against men. Not one thing. Except maybe Curves.

      • Nathan Reeves

        Guys, I can’t sit you down and “make” you read folks like Helen Smith and Christina Sommers. Both have exhaustively-researched and vetted books on this topic.

        Hard to compete against the “You’re wrong, because shut up!” rebuttal, though. Let’s make it easier for you….assuming you really wish to inquire further. Video sum-ups, what fun!!

        Here are a couple of instructive ones. Please consider societal assumptions as you watch them, and consider going in-depth with further reading:

        • destroyideas

          So you’re telling me ideologically-driven pop-psy nonsense is more important than reality?

          • Nathan Reeves

            No, I’m recommending that you think critically, do your reading, avoid perpetuating needless assump…..oh, wait.

            You called it nonsense. Pop-psy nonsense. I….I thought I had good points, enumerated cogently…..but you just called it nonsense….

            Why? Why did you do that to me? How could you? Now, I have to rethink my position on this based off of your devastating reasoning. Crap.

          • Retha Faurie

            “I thought I had good points, enumerated cogently…..” You had no points. You asserted that the author was wrong, that there is evidence, and gave links to among others a book to buy. You never actually gave – in this blog comments – one point yourself on which the evidence suggest a war on men, much less numbered (enumerated) points.

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  • Sarah Bessey

    Well said, Nate.

    • Blame the Victim

      Says another fish.

  • makeda

    These were good words. Thank you for sharing.

    • Blame the Victim

      Says yet ANOTHER fish.

  • Terri

    Thanks. Good post. I’ve noticed issues where the numbers appear very lopsided in favor of women, but a closer look reveals that the lopsidedness starts with men. Case in point, unfortunately, custody. Courts grant mothers custody in an overwhelming number of cases, something like 90%.

    That seems very prejudiced until you look at the corresponding number: Fathers self-report they don’t want full or primary custody in more than 85% of cases. Several of my good friends and coworkers are single fathers with custody, and they are amazing people–they fought for custody because they wanted their child, not because they were trying to extract financial concessions from their soon-to-be ex-spouse, and today they’re incredible fathers.

    That’s real manhood–doing the hard jobs because that’s what good human beings do and not blaming women for somehow “unmanning” you. I personally don’t think masculinity is so fragile that it can’t withstand the mere presence and influence of women, nor so fragile that it crumbles if it practices what are considered feminine qualities. Real masculinity is hardier than that.

    • Blame the Victim

      Considering you’re a fish, it’s no wonder why you don’t think your gender is wrong. Females are weak intellectually, that way.

  • Cameron

    I love the 5 year old girl “stop it” part. The article states that humanity is under attack, yet this neccessarily includes masculinity. Granted, as the article states, we should have a biblical understanding of masculinity, but when there is a neo-pegan societal push to blur gender distinction, then biblical masculinity and femininity are both under attack.

  • destroyideas

    Every generation looks at the younger generation and says, “Back when men were men.” Nothing’s new under the sun.

  • DonaldByronJohnson

    Yankee doodle dandy!

  • Blame the Victim

    This is bull pucky.

    Take ANY TV commercial where a man is made to look stupid. Re-create the ad but switch all of the genders. Put a WOMAN where the man is – and what would happen?


    This is readily apparent right now just before Valentine’s day – where women manipulate men into buying them diamonds and other trinkets but do the women have to buy MEN anything? BWA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HAAA!

    And you stupid, breeder males put up with their manipulation!

    Pᴜssy can’t be that great – I mean, come on – it smells like rotting tuna, after all!

  • Blame the Victim

    Why did the Christurd cross the road?

    So he could claim he was being persecuted on the other side.

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